Firm 1.1Firm 1.2Firm 2Hands off 1.1Hands off 1.2Hands off 2Permissive 1.1Permissive 1.2Permissive 2Balanced 1.1Balanced 1.2Balanced 2Connection / CommunicationValuesEmail HeaderThank you for taking the time to complete my parenting style questionnaire.Here's your individual report in the PDF attached, with some comments on what you're doing well, together with some parenting tips to add to your toolkit.Email FooterHere's to calmer parenting.Yours AyeElaine from The Parent Practicewww.theparentpractice.comQuestions and AnswersI often convince myself I’ll use something I buy but then never do.*Yes, that's meI only really buy things I needNot for myself, but I often buy things for others, sometimes only to find out they don't need or want itThis field is required.I hide my money problems. I’ll continue to spend to hide the problem*Yes, no one really knows the true extent...No, that's not meI try to hide it but I think it's probably obviousThis field is required.I like having the latest things: I always know when I’m due a phone upgrade and get it right away!*Did you know the latest Apple iPhone is due for release soon... Just saying...Not at all, I'm happy to make do with what I haveWho cares what everyone else is doing? I check out the features and then decide if I need them...This field is required.You only live once… Why not spend the money I have as it may be gone tomorrow…*Absolutely!I don't have this viewI wish I could live life this way!This field is required.I think money corrupts people.*I totally agree with thisNot always...No way, money is just a tool!This field is required.I am always thinking of ways to help or spending money to help other people, even if they haven’t asked.*Not meOh yes, I do like to help out!Not if they haven't askedThis field is required.I often regret money I’ve spent or how much I’ve spent.*Yes, I have lots of money regretsYes, if it goes against the plans I madeNo regrets. Mistakes are a learning opportunityIt is what it is. Things usually work out in the endThis field is required.I spend a lot of money on birthdays and Christmas on gifts for people*Yes, loads!I don't plan to, but then I see lovely things I just know others will love!I have a strict plan and I try to stick to itI leave the gifts to someone else; my presence is my present!This field is required.I’ve often had to pay fees and surcharges because I’ve forgotten or not been able to pay a bill on time*YesNever! The shame...I can't forget, all my payments are automatedIt's happened to me once or twiceThis field is required.I often go without so that I can spend on other people*Sometimes or more often than notYes, but it often bothers me that I could be saving moreNot at all. Rather than helping out financially, I prefer to give people my advice on how they can raise the finances they need.This field is required.I will easily pick something up I see when I’m out for someone else, but think for a long time if I see something I want for myself*This is so me!No. If I want it I get it!If it's really needed then I'll buy itThis field is required.I almost always offer to pay the bill when I go out to eat: “It’s on me!”*Of course!No, we split the bill.I'd love to, but probably couldn't afford toThis field is required.Receiving gifts or help (especially financial help) feels very awkward for me*It used to, but I'm used to it nowYes. I can provide for myself and I want others to know thatI love to look after others, I don't want anything in returnNo, I love to receive gifts!This field is required.I wouldn’t want to have more money or nicer things than my friends or family - I’d feel so bad!*This is definitely meWhy would I feel bad? They could have more money if they really wanted toNo. I'd be over the moon to have more money!This field is required.I’ve often thought about all the people I would help if I won the lottery!*Me. I would help me!Just imagine the good you could do with all that money!I'd be over the moon to have more money or share it with themThis field is required.When someone helps me or shows me a kindness, I feel I owe them in return. I go over and above to return the ‘favour’*Yes, this is definitely meNot really... should I?Not at all. It was their choice.This field is required.Money shouldn't be a motivator. Service is the motivator. I resent money's importance in the world - it’s irrelevant to a happy life*I completely agree with thisPerhaps, but money makes the world go roundMoney isn't a motivator, it's a tool. What I can do with money motivates meThis field is required.I plan money meticulously and carefully.*Yes, that's meI definitely have a plan, but I'm happy to change it if I need toThat's definitely not me!This field is required.I don’t like to give gifts that people might think are cheap*That's me, and I often spend far too much to make sureIt's the thought that countsI don't want others to think I'm cheap... But I won't blow my budgetThis field is required.I know all the fine details about my (our) finances. What comes in and goes out every month.*Of course!I avoid looking too deeply into my financesThis field is required.I’m very clear on the difference between what I need and what I want.*Yes, but sometimes I slip upYes, but what I want is often what I need, especially if it’s for my future.Not really, I buy what I want and worry about the consequences later!This field is required.I get really cross with myself if I don’t stick to my financial plan*Yes!No, my financial plan is designed to be fluidWhat financial plan?A little, but if I know what I've spent will make someone happy I just can't resistThis field is required.I feel that people will like me more if I am generous with my money*I feel this wayI don't really feel like thisIf people think like that, that's on themThis field is required.When I go shopping I feel like I have to come home with something*That's me...I don't feel that wayI do like to pick up something nice for friends or familyThis field is required.I don’t like waiting for things I want. Perhaps taking out a loan or buying it on credit.*YesNo way!I probably would wait if it was for myself. But if someone else was in need I would certainly consider it.This field is required.Something breaks or an emergency comes up? Not a problem, there’s a pot of money for that!*That's me!No, I live in fear of this happeningNo, but I always say "something will come up"This field is required.Before I go out to shop I know exactly what I’m going for and don’t deviate from it. I hate it when sales assistants try to sell me extras!*Yes, that's so annoyingI do have a plan, but sometimes I will get extra itemsI'm a sucker for an upsell!I'll often grab little extras for others, but not for myselfI rarely have the money for extrasThis field is required.I spend a lot of time considering things before I actually buy them. I’ll often do some research beforehand, even if it only saves me a few pence or pounds!*Yes, I always search for the best dealTo an extent, but only if the saving is significant enough to warrant my timeNo, I often get annoyed because I spot better deals AFTER I've purchasedThis field is required.I like to keep my money easily accessible just in case*Of courseNo, I have long term and short term moneyAll my money is in my bank accountThis field is required.I keep track of my money. I know how much I have right now, how much is coming in, how much is going out, and when*Yes, I have a spreadsheet or other tracking methodsNot reallyI just keep track in my head as best as possibleThis field is required.I often feel guilty spending money*Yes I feel guilty spending on myselfNot at allI usually feel guilty after a spontaneous purchaseThis field is required.It would be amazing to win or inherit lots of money… I’d have to get someone else to look after it though, or else it would all disappear!*This is so me!I know exactly what I'd do with a big winI would definitely give lots to help othersThis field is required.I don’t like to negotiate, bargain, haggle, or ask for more. It’s a lot of effort and feels a bit awkward!*Yes, the price is the price. If I can afford it, that's great.Negotiating is perfectly acceptableI almost always try to haggle for a better price!This field is required.If I’m low on money, I think something will come up, it always does!*Yes, that's true!I know that I can ask friends or family if I really need toNo, and this is why I have a robust planI can always MAKE more moneyThis field is required.I think most people manage money better than I can.*Totally agree with thisNot at all. I actually think I'm better than most people with moneyI wish I could manage money better than I doThis field is required.I spend time and energy researching where to keep my money in order to get the best return from it.*Absolutely. Time well spentI don't have any savings or investmentsThis field is required.I am always on the lookout for ways to have money work for me rather than working for money.*Yes, and I will invest in them if they seem a good fitYes, but I rarely invest - too risky!I'm always on the lookout for more money...This field is required.I keep track of my money and move it around when I need to. I know how much I want my money to grow, and will make adjustments to my plan if need be to maximise that growth*I don't move my money around, that's way too riskyOf course!This is foreign to meThis field is required.When I make a purchase, I think about how the purchase will add to my life either in the present or the future*It just makes senseI consider if it is a need or a wantI do this, but for others rather than myselfNo, if something catches my eye I just have to have itThis field is required.I try to automate my money as much as possible. I have lots of money apps and tools that I use regularly.*Yes, that's meI have one or two trusty tools I always useSometimes I check my online banking...This field is required.Final Details*One final step before we email you through your PDF report which includes: Your Money StoryTypes™ scores What your results mean for you Practical toolkit to helpYour personalised report will be emailed to you along with relevant tips supporting your score. View our Privacy Policy Name * Email * This field is required.Perosnality Type LowPerosnality Type HighPerosnality Type 1 CountPerosnality Type 2 CountPerosnality Type 3 CountPerosnality Type 4 CountPerosnality Type 5 CountTotal QuestionPercent Perosnality All TypeIdentify the lowest topic numberDo not edit me. Showing the {N} lowest Key Areas of Improvement LOWEST(N) ~> LOWEST(2) HIGHEST(N) ~> HIGHEST(2) AND Check to is Total number of Highest / Lowest keys wanted to show on Appearance tab OR: use MIN / MAX and check to is Identify the lowest topic number on Appearance tab 1 yes most2 yes most3 yes most4 yes most5 yes mostImpulsive General FeddbackYou have a Firm Parenting StyleFrom your answers, it appears you may be struggling or frustrated with your children’s behaviour, adopting an Authoritarian and Punitive parenting style.You may find yourself thinking “ I am the boss of this house. You need to listen to me, because I said so!”You tend to use the influence of your power and believe in a no nonsense approach, using threats and punishments, and may at times adopt the “naughty step” technique. Your children may either show rebellion and resentment, or be submissive.What you do well:You have a firm parenting style and understand the importance of setting limits and expectations.Positive Discipline is important to you because you want to bring up your child to have good habits and behaviours.You work hard to protect your child and keep them safe and secure.Enabler General FeddbackYou have a Permissive Parenting StyleFrom your answers, it appears you're doing OK in most areas, but could make improvements, as your parenting style swings like a pendulum between Authoritarian, o adopting an Indulgent and Overly Involved style of parenting.Sometimes you are lenient and inconsistent with rules, doing whatever it takes to keep your child happy. This can result in spoiling them, and then often feeling upset, declaring “ My child is so ungrateful and doesn’t appreciate all I do for them.”What you do well:You give your child a lot of love and warmth, and provide a nurturing environment, full of respect.You connect and communicate openly.You allow freedom of thought and expression.Architect General FeddbackYou have a Hands Off Parent StyleFrom your answers, it appears you adopt a Passive and Absentee approach to parenting. This is not as harsh as it sounds, but is less than ideal. You probably feel overwhelmed, lead a very busy life, and end up prioritising your own needs, as you believe children learn by doing it themselves.You may inadvertently end up neglecting your child’s physical and emotional needs and appear disengaged as a parent. You may find yourself thinking “Do what you want, as long as you leave me in peace to do my work.” This can be damaging to a child’s emotional development and self-esteem, so you need to consider becoming more involved in your child's life, above and beyond just fulfilling the basic duties expected of you.What you do well:You love your child and believe competence breeds confidence.You place a high value on independence and self-reliance.You strongly beleive in the importance of a child thinking and acting for themselves.Pacifist General FeddbackYou have a Balanced Parenting StyleFrom your answers, it appears you're doing really well and adopting a Balanced Authoritative and Democratic style of parenting.You're in charge positively, firmly and consistently. You offer a lot of understanding and support and give some autonomy and independence to your child.Yours is a loving relationship based on mutual respect, and whilst you know you have a sound parenting toolkit, you are open to adding more skills and strategies.What you do well:You nurture a relationship based on a mutual respect between parent and child.You show love, warmth and interest.You connect and communicate openly and listen well.You are clear on your values and set reasonable limits.You enforce boundaries and deliver consequences, firmly and consistently, but also positively.Key Area 1Impulsive1. Don’t focus on the negative When your child doesn’t listen to you it’s easy to nag, repeat, remind and criticise which puts our attention in the wrong place. This is called the negativity bias and you need to notice and comment when the children are doing the right thing. This is a much more effective way of getting cooperation than focusing on negative behaviour.Create a more nurturing and warm atmosphere by verbally expressing your love for your child through descriptive praise and affection.2. Deliver relevant and meaningful consequences Positive discipline, delivered calmly, is designed to help your children learn how to behave without lowering their self-esteem. Using the naughty step is counterproductive and doesn’t enable your child to learn from his mistakes. It’s a form of punishment that’s often delivered in anger, judgement and criticism and makes a child feel bad. No learning takes place and often leads to more misbehaviour.Depending on what rule is broken, make sure the consequence is relevant and meaningful to the misbehaviour so that every mistake is a teaching opportunity. Otherwise you will find your child may become more rebellious and resentful.3. Be an Emotion Coach for your childHow your child feels, influences how they behave. All behaviour has a cause and an emotion is often at the root of it. You can help your children understand and manage their emotions, by accepting all their feelings are valid. Your child then becomes more emotionally intelligent and more emotionally regulated.Name the feelings to tame them e.g. “You look really sad/ frustrated/ angry just now” or “It sounds like you are really upset about that”.So, listen and validate your child’s feelings, even though you may not agree. This helps keep the lines of communication open.Key Area 2Enabler1. Support your children to be more independent and self-reliantSelf-reliant children are able to do things for themselves, including their own thinking, problem-solving and managing their emotions. If you do too much for your children, they develop learned helplessness and a sense of entitlement, lose confidence and become risk-averse.Don’t automatically answer your child’s questions. Instead, encourage them to work it out or say “Take a guess.” If your child says “Do I have to clear up my toys now?” you can reply “What’s the rule about that” or “What do you think.” But don’t be tempted to tidy up the toys for them, because it’s quicker and easier.So, think about what tasks around the house you can give to your child, to help them be more independent in action and thought and more self-reliant. Remember competence breeds confidence. 2. Values are caught not taughtWork out what’s important to you, the strongly held beliefs that guide you. These are your values. These give you a clear vision of how you want your family to be, so you can create family rules. Children learn our values or behaviours when we practice them, not from being told. Children see, children do.Sit down with your family and explore what makes “Our Family way of life”. Create a family mission statement about the things that are important to you and from that create rules.E.g. If family togetherness is important then a rule may be “Leave electronics in the drop zone at meal time.” So, actively work out what your values are so you can create clear rules.3. Be firm with your boundaries and consequences Agree rules between parents, and given consistency is important, there may need to be some compromise. Demonstrate that actions have consequences without punishment, disapproval or threats, as this helps children learn to take responsibility for their behaviour.Ask the children – what rule do we need here? Frame the rules positively e.g. “Scooters outside”, is more effective than “no scooters inside” as our brains can’t visualise negatives. Be specific, so not “be polite”, but “please ask before you leave the table”. When children follow the rule acknowledge that, and when they don’t, know your consequence, e.g a privilege that hasn’t been earned.So, actively provide more positive discipline and be firmer and more consistent in setting your boundaries.Key Area 3Architect1. Provide warmth and loveFocus on what they’re getting right, and start to notice and mention small steps in the right direction. Identify the quality shown by the behaviour. Acknowledge effort, improvement and strategies, not results. According to the Gottman Institute, we need to hear 5 positives for each negative comment in order to build a good relationship between parent and child. Positive comments also help children feel good and be motivated and foster a healthy self-esteem. So, keep a notebook for your child dedicated to recording what you notice in terms of the effort, attitude, qualities and write 5 Descriptive Praises (DPs) for your children each day, and read it back to them. Watch their self-esteem grow.2. Express interest and get involved in your child’s life.Demonstrate curiosity about your child’s passions. Ask them to teach you how to play a game, whether electronic or otherwise. Go to school events and matches. Show an interest in what they’re learning at school.Ask open-ended questions to find out about their interests, beliefs and feelings. Try conversation starters like table topics.So, you may need to schedule some regular time to just hang out with your child one on one. If it’s not in the diary it’s unlikely to happen.3. Connect and communicate by listening more.Help your child feel more connected to you, by supporting them to understand and manage their emotions.When children are angry, disappointed or jealous it is tempting to dismiss, ignore, advise or try to change how they feel in order to change their behaviour, or because we feel validating their feelings may be indulging them. We need to accept their feelings first, so we can help them process those feelings.So, make time to listen and acknowledge what your children are saying and feeling?Key Area 4Pacifist1. Keep assessing your child’s temperament and needsYou’re doing a great job, and just keep being mindful to knowing your child’s temperament.Temperament is that range of in-built traits that define how your children interact with the world. Understanding and accepting your child’s make up, allows you to provide more effectively for his needs. We can’t change their temperament, but we can help them develop better responses.So, keep checking that you understand their temperament and their needs at each age and stage of development.2. Expand your warmth and love with the Golden BookFocus on what they are getting right, and start to notice and mention small steps in the right direction. Identify the quality shown by the behaviour. Acknowledge effort, improvement and strategies, not results. According to the Gottman Institute, we need to hear 5 positives for each negative comment in order to build a good relationship between parent and child. Positive comments also help children feel good and be motivated and foster a healthy self-esteem. So, keep a notebook for your child dedicated to recording what you notice in terms of the effort, attitude, qualities and write 5 Descriptive Praises (DPs) for your children each day. Make it a daily ritual to read it through with your child at bedtime, and if you have a teen, still keep the notebook and leave it lying in a common area for them to look at.3. Practice radical self-care as you are the most important resource for your family.Your physical, intellectual, social and emotional wellbeing forms the foundation for a happy family. Taking care of yourself, and your couple relationship, is not being selfish or self-indulgent. It is your responsibility to ensure you are in a calm space to allow you to parent in a calm, connected way. So, compare yourself to a bank account and make emotional deposits in order to keep yourself from becoming emotionally spent. Micro moments can have macro impact.Call to Action 1So having taken the quiz, and listened to your personalised video, it may be you're already practising positive parenting, and my report confirms that you're on the right track, or you may be a little intrigued about the world of positive parenting, and the impact it can have on your children.If you've just signed up to my email list, I'll be sharing with you over the next few days some more ideas and parenting tips. If this is not for you, then please feel free to unsubscribe, but I hope you find the tips useful.In the meantime your results indicate you could do something to work on your parenting style, that wouldn’t take up too much time. 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